Kristen Grossman Prose

Fruit of the Spirit: Producing Bounty in Barren Seasons

“A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

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These two. I have been looking through pictures of them because this little toddler boy turned 21 last week, and his sweet baby sister will graduate from high school this month. I treasure the precious memory of my rambunctious, constantly-in-motion little guy patiently sitting and gently cradling his little sister.

Likewise, the newborn infant in these photos grew to have a gentle spirit of her own. Even when she was a young baby who could barely sit up, her two older siblings knew they could count on her for a comforting hug and gentle pat on the back when they were feeling sad. Still today, you can often find this tender-hearted young lady noticing and including those who are hurting, lonely, or shy.  

Some people seem naturally gifted with a quiet and gentle disposition. For others of us, myself included, cultivating a gentle spirit requires more discipline. For me, the people I find most challenging to be gentle with are the ones I love the most. I regret the moments when I snap or sigh at my family members instead of responding to them in gentleness and with grace.

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, 
but a harsh word stirs up anger." 
Proverbs 15:1

While God’s grace covers our shortcomings, fostering a spirit of gentleness creates a safe and loving space for those around us. It prevents us from bruising the hearts of the precious people in our lives. Gentleness also allows us to experience deeper, closer relationships with both our loved ones and with our Heavenly Father.

"Therefore, as God’s chosen people, 
holy and dearly loved, 
clothe yourselves with 
compassion, kindness, humility, 
gentleness and patience."
Colossians 3:12

3 Practical Ways to Cultivate a Spirit of Gentleness

Take Care of Your Physical and Spiritual Self

 To be gentle with the hearts of others, we first need to be gentle with ourselves. I find I am at my least compassionate when I am tired, hungry, or weary. Getting to bed on time, supplying my body with nutritious food, and filling my mind with God’s truth places me in a better place for tending gently to the concerns of those around me.

Look to Jesus

Like so many other virtues, gentleness is not an attribute I can perfect all on my own. If I rely on my own good intentions, I will fail. However, keeping my eyes fixed firmly on Jesus and His example can empower me to be tender and kind.  Furthermore, asking for God’s help and strength can bolster me to better honor Him in all that I do and say.

"Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, 
for I am gentle and humble in heart, 
and you will find rest for your souls." 
Matthew 11:29

Think Before Speaking

My lack of gentleness often appears in my words. I could avoid unleashing my harsh words and attitudes if I would only think before I speak. The heat of the moment is a poor time to express negative opinions and emotions. If I find I am about to speak sharp words, I would be wise to ask to revisit the conversation when I have calmed down. Taking a break allows me the time to examine my heart and temper my words with love.

Gentleness is a beautiful quality that nurtures feelings of security, peace, and love. I am so thankful for the example of our gentle Savior.

Dear Lord, please help me to cultivate gentleness in my life. I pray that through your power,  those around me would experience your compassion and grace through me. Amen.